As many of my most loyal readers know, I have this bizarre reaction to death which makes me funnier than usual. However, this time around, I couldn’t find much to laugh about.
My sweet mini’s grandmother passed, then 3 days later her great-grandfather passed away, too. Both had been struggling for some time, but it doesn’t make it any easier. Holding your child while they cry knowing there’s nothing you can do to mend a broken heart is awful. Though it sounds odd to put it this way, I’m thankful I have experienced the loss of a parent because there’s a piece of numbness I’ve developed. Sounds bad, right? It’s taken more than 25 years to really delve into all the emotions but it’s been useful. I am incredibly thankful for friends and family who walked me through the what to say’s of this experience – people who know so much more than I do about life.
As I held my little mini, I watched her go through the textbook feelings and reactions of anyone who experiences grief. Anger, bargaining, acceptance, etc. That psychology background came in handy. And I’m proud of myself for being there for her in all the ways I believe my siblings and I didn’t receive. No offense intended.
In other news, my sister is feeling the gravity of working with me.
Me: Hey, how many treadmills do you have over there?
Me: Is the A/C working today? Do you have a fan facing the treadmills?
Her: I have this super important training to go to today – where is it?
Me: *responds with a recipe* What? Sorry. Can we make these for dessert this weekend? What were you saying? Oh, training, right?
This is so much fun. For me!
I ask you –
Do you shy away from tough conversations or tackle them head on?
Have you ever worked with a family member?
Tell me how annoyed you think my sister is with me! Probably a 4. She’s used to it by now.
(The post Hard Conversations first appeared here at Running on Fumes.)
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Grew up in family business, so I worked with my parents regularly until I joined the Navy. I only worked with my sister for a month though.
If you don’t mind me asking, why only a month with your sister?
She’s 15 years older than me, and when her second husband was at drill instructor school she lived with us for a month.
Wow, what an age gap!
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Never worked with a family member, but I ended up dating my store manager for 3 1/2 years at an old job–proof that I make poor choices sometimes. We started dating after working with each other for about 9 months.
I usually have honest conversations with my son, and tell him that life isn’t easy sometimes. I try to give him examples from my life to help him understand the tough stuff.
Your sister probably is used to you, so I understand that! I didn’t say that’s good or bad. I’m not taking sides here.